I would say, though, up until Eli was three months old we struggled with creating a routine which totally jacked up his sleep and our sleep. We mostly had to take turns sleeping with Eli on the couch-I would take the first half of the night and my husband would take the second half. He would not sleep in his bassinet or rock-and-play and woke up every 2-3 hours to eat so it gave both of us a chance at getting 4 solid hours of sleep per night. We also had several days of poor eating at the beginning of November where every day his intake was decreased-26 oz, 23 oz, 20 oz, 18 oz.......I was starting to get worried because he seemed to be having some pain in his mouth and possibly his throat due to the blisters from having EB. But then all of the sudden Eli just took off eating like a champion. We got into a better napping and night time routine thanks to his nurses who worked with him on napping in his rock-and-play. We started experimenting with essential oils at night and learning better ways to soothe Eli to sleep. Eventually by the end of November Eli was only waking up once a night to eat. If he fussed at all but wasn't hungry enough to wake up crying, we would just turn on his mobile music and he would fall right back to sleep. It was wonderful. So wonderful that we started taking nights instead of shifts. Eli was happy during the day, always smiling and cooing and even laughing. His skin was looking pretty great too compared to when we came home from the hospital at three weeks old. Bandage changes weren't terrible to get through most days anymore either.
But this past month-our heads have been spinning and our hearts have been hurting for our sweet boy. Starting with "sleep regression"-waking up screaming bloody murder every hour-literally-every.hour. For weeks on end. Then his skin started taking a turn for the worse-blisters that we haven't seen occur since he was 2 months old. Big blisters on his feet and thighs. Wounds on his left knee and right wrist resurfacing and becoming completely raw. Blisters all over his forehead, on the bridge of his nose, and on the sides of his eye sockets. Sheered skin on his chest and blisters around his armpits.
We have even been having feeding problems again. For a child who has loved to eat and would usually gulp down a 4.5 ounce bottle in 5 minutes and 7 ounce bottle in 10 minutes-most of the time despite the blisters in his mouth-it was heart breaking to see him fearful of his bottle. We landed ourselves in Cincinnati Children's for a night of observation because of Eli's increased risk of becoming dehydrated due to his EB. I was concerned that if we did not nip whatever was causing his pain in the butt immediately things would spiral out of control like I've heard happen with other EB kids.
Parents of healthy babies told us he is probably just teething-babies refuse to eat when they are teething because of having painful gums. Parent's of EB babies told us he probably has blisters in his esophagus and we should get him a g-tube before it gets any more serious. Is it just teething....or could he really have internal blisters preventing him from eating?
In true Eli fashion, after a full 24 hours of screaming bloody murder at the pure sight of a bottle, once he was seen by the emergency room doctor and given a stronger dose of Tylenol than what we had given him at home twice that day, he gulped down 4 ounces, took a 30 minute nap, and then gulped down another 3.5 ounces and was as happy as could be flirting with the female nurses and attending physician on the unit he was admitted to. Three hours later, he took another 5 ounces. And 5 hours later we were discharged and on our way back home, praying that he would continue to eat. We left Children's with an increased prescription for reflux meds and Tylenol based on Eli's weight change from his previous prescriptions, and a new prescription for a medication to coat the lining of his throat since we weren't exactly SURE about why he was refusing to eat for an entire day.
It took at least a week before Eli was back to himself. He would still struggle to eat full bottles-wanting to eat smaller bottles more frequently. And he was still waking up screaming bloody murder every 2 hours at night. Finally after reaching out for suggestions, we started applying natural orajel to Eli's gums at bedtime and being more consistent with applying lavendar essential oil behind his ears and on his foreharm(since his wrists are wrapped) and diffusing a combination of essential oils at night. We purchased several deep sleep C.D's to play at night so our phones no longer had their batteries drained at night from sleeping next to Eli's head playing music for him. I thought maybe these parents of healthy babies were right....maybe its just teething. He does have a white spot on his bottom gums that has been there a couple weeks now and keeps getting whiter. We also started him back on gas drops because he would scream every time he would pass gas and it was so loud and hard sounding that we knew it had to hurt him. When we had FOUR great days and nights in a row, using this new bedtime routine, I was convinced it was teething and gas pain keeping him awake a night.
Now what? Growth spurt? He had 14 ounces consumed by 10:30 this morning. Teething pain again? Yesterday I felt a sharpness to that white spot on his gums. Itching? His wounds are moving in the healing direction after three weeks of blistering, refilling, and skin dying off. Wound pain? His wounds are really raw right now until they grow new skin. Internal blisters? I noticed a blister on the end of his tongue today. Respiratory issues? My husband said he was breathing hard in the middle of the night and me and his nurse noticed it too later in the morning.
Being a parent is a difficult job and leaves us often feeling helpless for our children. We only want them to be as healthy as possible so it is hard not to freak out and feel like you are missing something that could cause serious harm if left untreated. That is true with any child. It is even more true with a child who has a serious medical issue. I find myself stuck somewhere between annoyed at people who think this is only a skin disease our son will grow out of and who suggest what he is going through with his eating and sleeping is just a phase that all babies go through when having developmental leaps-to being annoyed at other EB parents who immediately jump to the worse possible scenerio and makes us feel like we are putting our son in danger of death if we don't get him a g-tube and are torturing our child because we don't give him narcotic pain meds. I feel like he is probably experiencing a little bit of both sides of the fence and we just have to be extremely diligent to watch for changes in his behaviors and vital signs. He is a happy, smiling, babbling, laughing, playful boy 90% of the time when he is awake-even on the days when he doesn't want to eat much and after the nights he hasn't slept much. I don't think anyone, even experienced parents, can say 100% for sure that what their child is going through at any given time is "normal" because every child is completely different-healthy or not.